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Craig Luddy 3.15.51-7.15.06
Craig Luddy

“Eight weeks ago, I really didn’t know how to cope with the pain of losing Antiguo. I wasn’t sure how to go on in the face of such crippling, unimaginable pain. I still don’t know. The fact of the matter is, you don’t cope with the pain. You learn to live with it, which is a subtle, but important, difference. The pain, when it hits, is as bad as it ever was. It isn’t any better. It doesn’t make any more sense. I know this. I allow for it….Time does not heal pain. Time merely gives you the room to get used to it.”

I wrote the above 8 weeks after he died.  Today is 8 years, and I had no idea how right I was then.  Another thing I didn’t know was that my life would be good again.  It is.  It really is.  But gawd, how I miss him.




I've been doing some form of creative writing since 9th grade, and have been a blogger since 2003. Like most bloggers, I've quit blogging multiple times. But the words always come back, asking to be written down, and they pester me if I don't. So here we are. Thanks for reading.

6 thoughts on “8

  1. I remember you writing this hon and that pain really was self-evident, 2006 was an horrendous year to be sure. So much has happened since and I’m glad you can look favourably upon life now. Long may that continue.

  2. Love to you. I still think of him often, usually when listening to a piece of music.

    “Time merely gives you the room to get used to it.” This. Yes.

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